This week, we want to have a quick natter about simply not feeling good enough. It might be because of the feeling of pressure from those around you, impossible standards you set yourself, or maybe you screwed up at something. We’d wager there’s not a human being on the planet who hasn’t had these feelings, but that’s not an awful lot of comfort when you’re in the grip of them. For it’s a feeling that has a habit of growing. Something that can go from one day not feeling good enough, to two days, a week, a month and beyond. The kind of feeling that can leave you feeling without worth, or talk you out of even trying. The first is the logical one. To keep trying. To not give up. It’s also in many cases the hardest one. But perhaps go in search of small things that you can do, to gradually rebuild your confidence? Instead of tackling the most difficult thing on your list, try a few of the easier bits and see if that helps. If possible, take a turn. If you’re staring at a screen and trying to get something done, but it’s just not coming, go for a walk. Do something different. Break the cycle a little. Try to avoid just doing more of the same, because we suspect you’ll find things tougher to resolve. Finally, try and talk to someone you trust. Or just talk to someone, and try not to internalise your feelings. Even comments on a messageboard like the one below. It’s a horrible feeling, and a horrible one to shake. But it can be beaten. Lots of small things, though, tend to be more effective than one big one. You all stay brilliant, and thank you, as always, for reading.
